The importance of those little hits of happiness.
By Tracey Anderson
At the time of writing most of us are still in quarantine. This makes us unwilling participants in a huge psychological experiment, unprecedented in history. Quarantine itself is not the problem for most of us. With online shopping, online seminars, online meetings, there are a myriad of ways we remain connected to the outside world via technology. But the recent rise in mental health issues suggests that something about self-isolation is a huge problem. Psychologists studying the effects of lockdown on our mental health have discovered is that being in isolation means we miss regular doses of ‘micro-lifts’.
Micro-lifts are those pleasurable little incidents scattered throughout our day, which we usually consider so insignificant we barely remember them. It’s someone smiling a cheery hello as you buy a morning paper, or the little accidental dance you end up doing with a colleague as you both tried to get through door at the same time and which made you giggle. These seemingly banal events lift our mood without us even realising.
If you’re in isolation on your own these little micro-lifts don’t happen naturally. We begin to go into micro-lift deficit after about two weeks and this can cause our mood to nosedive. Even if you are isolated with your family it seems that micro-lifts are in much shorter supply, as they seem to be more dependent on those little interactions and connections we make with a wider circle of people going about our daily business.
This means that while we’re in quarantine we can improve our sense of well-being by generating our own artificial micro-lifts. To do this we need to create opportunities for small, real connections with others throughout our day. It might be smiling and waving at the postman each morning or exchanging a few words from a safe social distance with a neighbour. I mentioned micro-lifts to my 17-year-old son after he’d looked a bit down and complained that, ‘…every day is the same right now. I have nothing to talk about with my mates anymore.’ After thinking about it for a while he came up with the idea of doing an online painting tutorial with a couple of friends. They all completed the same tutorial while chatting to each other on video call. It wasn’t about the end result; it was about the process of creating a time and space to connect with each other over a shared experience. They laughed a lot and teased each other and sounded like normal carefree teens for a short while. He felt much better afterwards, and it boosted his mood for a couple of days. They are planning to do something similar at regular intervals, which also gives them things to look forward to in the short term.
Remember micro-lifts are not about the big stuff…this isn’t about setting out to lose twenty pounds, or learn Italian, or the cello, though these things might present opportunities for micro-lifts if you’re doing them with other people. They are about working brief meaningful connections with others into your day, and the beauty of micro-lifts, is that every time you connect and generate one for yourself, you are doing the same for someone else.